In every Christian church I have been a member of, the majority of adults has been women. In every local church I have belonged to, most of the faithful workers have been women. To me, this is a problem. Do I have a problem with female church members? Not at all.
But I say it’s a problem because God calls the men to be the spiritual leaders in their home. Moreover, the fathers are needed to properly mentor their sons. They in turn are to be the spiritual leaders in their own home when they become adults.
Wives, you can help out in improving the situation with our men in the church. Peter was inspired to write to wives about this in one of his epistles. “Wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation [lifestyle] of the wives” (1 Peter 3:1). This verse is a testament to the power of a godly woman. Let us quickly look at several important points in this verse.
First of all, this verse speaks specifically to women who are married to men who are not followers of Christ. This is not unusual in the church today. In fact, this reality is one reason why most local churches have considerably more females than male congregants. Far too often, Mom brings the children to church while Dad chooses to do otherwise.
Secondly, this verse says that husbands who are not being won by the Word of God may be won by the godly conduct of their wives. Wives, constantly preaching to your unsaved husband is not the best approach to getting him saved. This biblical strategy Peter shares is for winning the man “without the word.”
Thirdly, the woman is called to be in subjection to her own husband, even if he is not subject to the Word. Wives, if you project a sense of superiority because you are saved and your husband is not, your doing so will not advance your cause. Remember, the power you are being called on to leverage here is that of a godly woman.
Every Christian woman who is married should want her husband to know the Lord. But like others, some husbands will not be won through hearing the gospel. Perhaps, what they need is to see the gospel lived out in the home each day.
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